The Big Decision: Moving your Loved One to a Retirement Community

Retirement CommunityA discussion with your parents about assisted living should take place at some point, but it may come with difficulties. This may be an emotional moment for every family member. Anxiety, guilt, and depression — these are some of the things you may have to overcome when moving your loved ones to a new community better equipped to offer their needs.

These mixed feelings give you an idea why many people try to avoid this complicated conversation. You can’t dodge it forever, though, so at least come to the discussion prepared. Here are some of the things that may prepare you for the decision.

Making the decision

The first thing you need to do is to prepare yourself emotionally and mentally. You don’t have to rush this decision. Assess the situation and always weigh your options. What made you think of moving them to a senior retirement living community?

Your situation may be different from others’. It’s only normal to feel guilty at first, but as long as your intentions are good you should not worry.

The whole family should decide regarding this matter, so it’s advisable to hold a family meeting before breaking the news to your parents. Let everyone give their opinion. This involves having your parents live in a different house, with different people, and it also entails costs. Who shoulders the costs, how often you visit your parents, etc. — make a list of the things you have to talk about.

Knowing the responsibilities

Choosing the best retirement community should be your priority. Make an online search so you can compare the facilities immediately; shortlist your best options.

Visit the places you have decided on. You’ll know the best environment for your parents by knowing more about their programs. Most retirement homes today have activities for residents. They have physical fitness programs and recreational activities to keep everyone busy and healthy.

Your job doesn’t end after you’ve checked your loved one into the retirement facility. Make time for visits. Try to drop by once a week or during your free time. Take them out now and then with the rest of your family so they don’t feel abandoned.

A retirement community should not be a depressing place; it should be a place for seniors to have a life of their own. You want and deserve a comfortable life; so pick a place that would give your loved one the same thing.

About the Author

As a New York-based psychologist. Thelma Scott has conducted several seminars tackling adult autism.